How to Help Someone
Who is Facing a Terminal Illness
Tips From Duke Community Hospice
Be a good listener. Allow them to describe their experience without interruptions or attempts to help them feel better. It is important for them to be able to tell their story to someone who is willing to listen.
Learn the art of not doing or saying but simply being present. Provide a non-anxious, comfortable presence.
Remember to ask them what they need. Don't assume. At a time when so many things are out of their control, it is important to help in the best way you can without taking away or infringing on their independence.
Let them cry; let them laugh. Allow them to share their emotions with you, whatever they might be. Pain isolates; the expression of feelings reconnects and bonds.
Practice random acts of kindness. Small gestures can make all the difference. Bring special foods, candles, lotions, silk pillowcases - things that provide comfort.
Help their family. Invite the family out. Offer to come and give them a break from caregiving.
Offer encouragement to the family. Supportive words and acknowledgment of the tough job caregivers have can provide a positive impact. Tell them what a good job they are doing.
Encourage the caregivers to care for themselves. Help them recognize that it is especially important during this time to pay attention to their own physical, emotional and spiritual needs.
